42, still not yet a dragon

Early last year, I went to see geomancy master. She asked me if I have had difficult years so far? I said yes. She continued to tell me I was about to enter an even difficult 10-year phase starting from 41.

Today, I’m celebrating my 42nd birthday. Which means to say, 1/10 of the journey down, 9/10 to go! How depressing! Though, this will only work if I chose to believe what she said. Which, can be quite a struggle for me.

My religion forbids me from believing such practices. But I also cannot deny it had indeed been really challenging journey for me. I don’t consider myself very suay. I’m blessed to have married a good wife, who gave birth to two awesome kids. In the department of “Personal life”, I have nothing to complain. But when it comes to everything else, I find myself constantly fighting uphill battles.

Outsiders may think of me as someone who’s having a good life, good job and probably making tonnes of money. But very few would know how much blood an sweat I have to shed, what kind of struggles I have to go through each day just to make the next dollar. In fact, I would do the epic split on top of two Volvo trucks just to make my point!

Though, I’m also a fighter too. A stubborn fighter! So what if there are another nine difficult years to go? Or 19? Or 29? I’ll take them on, one day at a time!

Happy birthday to me!


Imagine all of us were born with good deal of wealth. Then our parents continued to take care of our wealth during early years of our life. As we grew older, we slowly learned to manage our own wealth, but instead of working on preserving our wealth, we spent it carelessly. Until we realised we have little wealth left. Then we tried to start cumulating our wealth again, only then we realised we had to put in much more effort to make up what we have lost. It was also when we wished we had done something about it long ago.

Now, replace all the word “wealth” in this post with “health”. See my point now?


This story goes back in the days when I was working in an agency.

One day I was tasked to blast out an EDM to database of 130,000 email addresses. Since it was a major blast, I had to do it at midnight while the internet traffic was low (during the days when broadband was still 1mbps).

The marcom director of our client has given the green light to blast out the EDM. While I was doing one final round of checks, I decided to prefix the word: <Promo> to the subject line, thinking that was the right thing to do. Finally I hit the “Send” button.

Half-an-hour later, the marcom director called my phone, asking if I added the word “Promo” to the subject line. I said “yes”.

“WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU THINKING?!” The exact word from the other end of the phone line.

“Don’t you know we don’t and will never use the word ‘Promo’?! Because we will never run any promo!”

Honestly, I had no idea about that. But immediately I aborted the blast while it was still going on, though it had made it to about 3,000+ recipients already. I spent next 10 hours going through the sent log to sift out who were those 3,000+, and sent them the clarification email.

Boss asked to see me the next day to understand the incident.

I called up the marcom director again to apologise to him officially. I told him I was prepared to be fired, but surprised why I wasn’t. To which his reply was, after accepting my apology, “I’m glad your boss didn’t fire you. I wouldn’t too! If he had, the next guy who join the company may make the same mistake. Why risk that, instead of keeping you, who are already better than the next guy!”

Those kind words have become one of my guiding principals since.

I forgot to tell, the client was Apple.

Outlook of life 2.0

Ever since the encounter with the numerology master, my outlook of life has changed.

I used to questioned why there have to be difficult people in my life. People who give me hard times or heartaches. People who, come back for payback.

Well, to my revelation, these people might just be here for payback! And it’s not necessarily a bad thing. As the saying goes, “Owe money, pay money”. What I owe, I’m happy to pay back. Because of this belief, I started to feel a lot better.

Don’t get upset with people who don’t offer help. It might just because they were not in your debt;
Even if they were in your debt, don’t get too caught up with it. Let them have it for a while more. The payback will come anyway, sooner or later.

Don’t get put off by people who keep coming to you for help. It might just because you were in their debt;
Even if you don’t think you owed them anything, help them anyway. It is better to let someone to be in your debt, rather than the other way around.

You may disagree with what I have written here. And that’s OK. You don’t owe it to me to agree with it.